Do We Know a ‘Joab’?

10 Nov

Joab and David

I came across the passage 2 Samuel 19:1-7 today in my reading. The context is that King David is mourning the death of his rebellious son, Absalom; whom was killed by David’s commanders after Absalom was threatening to kill his father (King David). As King David was mourning, the commanders and troops did not feel valued by their King and were considering leaving. Joab, who was one of the key commanders and close friend of King David, actually approached King David and told him of the issue.

2 Samuel 19:5-7 – “Then Joab went into the house to the king and said, ‘Today you have humiliated all your men, who have just saved your life and the lives of your sons and daughters and the lives of your wives and concubines. You love those who hate you and hate those who love you. You have made it clear today that the commanders and their men mean nothing to you. I see that you would be pleased if Absalom were alive today and all of us were dead. Now go out and encourage your men. I swear by the Lord that if you don’t go out, not a man will be left with you by nightfall. This will be worse for you than all the calamities that have come on you from your youth till now.'”

It may seem brutal from Joab on the outset, especially to a mourning King. Imagine saying this to your boss!! But the reality is Joab did what he had to do and actually saved the kingdom from further ruin.

In life, we need strong relationships with people who will, when the time comes, tell us like it is. We need to move beyond the ‘nice-ties’ and be real with each other. This comes from building strong and transparent relationships. When we approach another person about an issue, error or situation, we need to approach it with the right heart and mind. We need to ensure we have their best intentions in mind. if we are being approached, we need to ensure that we understand they are coming from a good place and understand what they are trying to explain to us.

Proverbs 17:17 – “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity”

I value relationships like this – relationships that bring empowerment, love, joy, transparency and correction. It is in these relationships that we truly grow and flourish. I am thankful for all the people who have approached me with concerns for me, exposed certain issues to me and enable me an opportunity to be aware of it, learn from it and grow to be the person I am today. It is because of these strong friendships, along with their love and joy that have allowed me to sharpen the chinks in my armor.

Proverbs 27:5-6 – “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy”

Do you have a Joab around you today? whom you can rely on to tell you like it is when the time is calling for it?


One Response to “Do We Know a ‘Joab’?”

  1. gabriel kwok November 12, 2015 at 5:51 am #

    Than you, my Joab

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: